“Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.” ―
I can’t tell you how many times over the last 18 months I have heard the one line “you are such a bore” 99% of the time after I hadn’t sext or sent a naked selfie! Sorry boys but that line is boring as fuck!!
Now I am not against online dating as a place for casual affairs of the body and a bit of fun but I am a massive fan of being upfront about it. There is no shame in wanting or having sex in fact as a whole I rather like it (sex not tinder, tinder can bite my arse) but we are all grown ups, if that’s what you want, put it in your bio that’s what the bio is for! For some reason there is still stamina around sex for pleasure, ladies some guys do know where the g-spot is, and they know what to do with it! I would say, if you find a man who has discovered the way to your g-spot, keep hime forever! Plus there is all the online politics around saying what you think they other person wants to hear when really it would save a hell of a lot of time if we all put what we wanted and said what we were expecting from the start. And please do not get me started on “I just want a laugh and see where it goes” because yes you want a laugh but I am pretty damn sure you want it to only go to the bedroom.
I have now been on Tinder so long that I can tell where a person is from, from the first picture of themselves, I kid you not!! People in different areas look a certain way! I have a 10 out of 10 success rate of “guess the location” based on their face. Which is both funny and very upsetting.
So everything is going well, they seem like a well balanced put together person. There are a few jokes, everything is all above board and then suggestion to swap over to whatsapp to make it easier. There has been nothing sexual said or even hinted at, at this point, so you give them your number and somewhere between closing the Tinder app and opening Whatsapp they have realised they have a penis and aren’t afraid to show you it, in all its ugliness. They pretty much straight away try and engage you in sexting, guys I am not a teenager anymore I much prefer doing it then talking about it! I often reply with a fun flirty message which then goes to “I have never done this before” “there is something about you” etc etc which leads to a more firm no and before you have it, he slaps you with “you are such a bore” line. Guys women who don’t want to sext or send nude pictures aren’t a bore, you are mistaking boring with their self-worth, learn the difference. Then think to yourself why the heck would she want to send someone she has never met before a picture of herself naked! And if she does want to send you one thats great too but believe me if she has said no then you calling her a childish name because she wont do what a stranger has asked won’t make her suddenly change her mind! If anything you have about 10 seconds before she blocks you.
About a month ago I was chatting to go a Tinder, after a couple of days I suggested swapping numbers and he declined. He had said that he would prefer to get to know me better before swapping numbers. OK so I am thinking finally I have found a winner, a well rounded guy that is not just interested in getting pictures. We spoke for about two week online daily, nothing sexual is mentioned or even hinted at. So when he finally asks for my number I am over the moon, ladies you will never guess what the very first message he sends me was!! You guessed right, I opened my whatsapp up to a picture of his soft (yep not even hard) penis! My eyes rolled back so fast I thought I was going to fall backwards! As soon as I opened it I received a second message simply saying “your turn”. I quickly opened my google photo album named penises and sent him a picture of the last dick pic I received (a hard one). Just an FYI and because I am not a total bitch, I don’t send any where you can identify the person that would be mean. And if all this wasn’t enough, can you believe he blocked me straight away. After I stopped rolling around laughing I added his picture to the folder and carried on with my life!
I just don’t know how calling me a bore is going to make me go weak at the knees and get me to change my mind?? Asking a friend??? And whats even worse is that men think they can basically bully women into doing what she doesn’t want to do in the first place. Now this is just my experience and I am sure there are some great guys out there. It would seem after talking to my friends who are also online dating and not having this problem that I just have a face that says send me a dick pic!! Opening my whatsapp has turned into an extreme sport, one I should have a gold medal in. Like am I going to see a cute picture of a puppy or a limp dick??
However if you are a guy reading this and a girl says no or even sounds slightly unsure please do not pressure her into sending you a picture and only send a picture of yourself if she asks for one, chances are she has seen a penis before, you won’t be showing her anything new. Instead romance her, take her on fun, cute dates and use your charm to seduce her. After all Christmas is not as fun when you already know what you are getting. Let your penis be a surprise for her to discover when she is ready.