“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.” Baltasar Gracian
Almost everyone is striving to find happiness. The idea is that we can only be happy once a certain goal has been achieved: you work hard to earn lots of money, but then you have no time to enjoy your prosperity; you plan to travel to every country in the world instead of simply enjoying your next holiday; you want to master an instrument perfectly instead of looking forward to evenings playing around the campfire, even though you only know three chords on the guitar.
“We often find happiness in the little things,” wrote Wilhelm Busch. And indeed, in the pursuit of happiness, it is very easy to overlook the moments in the meantime when you are actually simply happy. So what can we do to enjoy these moments to the full? The trick is just to enjoy the moment. I have spent the last four weeks in a blur of friends, good conversation, food, dates and wine. I feel I have taken a break from adult life to fully enjoy my life.
I have recently decided to leave a job I adore because I have realised that I am missing out on my life for a company that would quite frankly replace me tomorrow. There is no amount of money that is worth missing out on the small moments of your life, with the handing in of my notice I have been able to take some time off work and really focus on me and the relationships around me. I have used work as a distraction for the last couple of years and guys I am so scared of having so much free time and reshaping my whole life. But for now life is really good and I have no regrets.
Sunday afternoons have become lazy lunches filled with wine and gossiping, no plans, nowhere to be just being. As Mark Twain advised: “Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life.” Let’s strive for the little moments of happiness. Because if you enjoy enough little moments of happiness – hey presto – you have achieved great happiness.
I am grateful for everything, gratitude is the first step to a happy in life. Be grateful for the little things that you have in your life while others are struggling to have them. Appreciation will open your gates to the joy you never felt before. “Joy is the simplest form of gratitude” as Karl Barth put it. Start your day with gratitude for everything you have in your life. Appreciate gestures of kindness and care. We don’t often thank our family and friends for their valuable contributions to our lives. Don’t waste your time waiting for bigger things to happen rather appreciate the ordinary, the mundane. It is these little moments of happiness that make life worth living.
With my new found time and the sheer number of times I eat out a week I really need to get my bum in the gym, one of the many reasons for the job change is my health. I have realised that I have become the last thing I bother about, I can’t remember the last time I went to the gym, self-care or ate a meal that was healthy. I am certain there is nothing in this world worth your health, my job change leaves me with a whopping 4 hours back of my life that’s 4 hours to sleep, eat correctly, exercise and self-care.
Friday evenings have been filled with dates, conversation and the odd cheeky goodnight kiss. Another reason for the job change is my lack of time for relationships and I get that you shouldn’t sacrifice yourself for a man but should you sacrifice yourself for a job also? Nope and eventually I would like to meet someone and actually not have to cancel dates last minute because a work thing popped up. Since Christmas, I have cancelled six dates last minute for work, the last couple of weeks I have been making up for them now.
Saturdays have been filled with wet kisses, cuddles and love. It is incredibly scary to go from having no free time to having nothing but free time, friends have been wonderful checking up on me, encouraging me to go out and try new things. It’s easy not to be lonely when you are busy it’s different when you aren’t, I am doing good though and enjoying being engulfed in everyone’s kindness and love.