“Summer afternoon—summer afternoon; to me those have always been the two most beautiful words in the English language.” -Henry James
If you have no idea what 80 days of summer is all about, then where have you been!? Don’t worry you can catch up here. But basically for 80 days, I am going to make sure I do something every single day that makes the most of summer, some things will be new some won’t. This challenge is to show that life is really made for living, no excuses, no wasting days! Just happiness every single day!
The challenge has turned my life upside down who knew that getting you heartbroken could be the best thing ever to happen to you, although I am kinda still hurting a bit, mainly through my own stupidity.
I saw a quote on Instagram recently about having three loves in your life. Your first love, the second and the forever. With the second was some text “The hard one. You get hurt in this one. This love teaches us lessons and makes us stronger. This love includes great pain, lies, betrayal, abuse, drama and damage. But this is the one where we grow. We realise what we love about love and what we don’t love about love. Now we know the difference between good and bad humans. Now we become closed, careful, cautious and considerate. We know exactly what we want and what we don’t.”
I couldn’t think of a more fitting text for this part of my life if it wasn’t for being dumped I would never have done 40 New Things in 40 Days so I would never have started 80 Days of Summer. I wouldn’t have the job I have now nor the friends I have made. I wouldn’t be saving to buy a house alone. I haven’t cut myself off to falling in love again but I have raised my self-worth. If I am honest with myself and you the journey isn’t over yet, there are still some tears and days where I think of him but they are becoming less and less and while I am still having these days I am still learning about myself, still growing and still self-loving.
One of the most positive things to come out of the last four months is Anna, I met her on Bumble BFF and she has become an incredibly important person to me. I have known her such a short time but she has been a great friend through my moaning stage and if I am honest lucky she stuck around! We try and met once a week for a catch up last week we headed out for dinner in West Didsbury. We drank cocktails (I was on mocktails) in the sunshine, I love Manchester in the sunshine before heading to Greens for dinner.
The food was delicious but overpriced, the staff weren’t great and the décor was dated, don’t think I will be rushing back in a hurry but me and Anna had a big catch up, you can’t believe how much can happen to two women the space of a week.
I have been so busy lately that I haven’t been making as much time for my family as I normally would, especially my little brother and since I have no life Saturday night seemed like the perfect time to go out with him. A dessert shop has just opened down the round from his home so what better place to meet. My brother has been pretty poorly lately so I know I need to make much more of an effort with him, it would break my heart if I couldn’t be there to help and protect him. Naturally, we ordered way too much for two people but since neither of us are quitters we tucked in. Forget the pub on a Saturday night now, I am all about waffles and milkshakes and once I am ready to start dating again that will be in my bio! It was lovely to get some quality time with my brother he is totally my hero, he’s the kindest, funniest and most caring man I have ever met. I am truly lucky to call him my brother and have him in my life! Although if I keep hanging out with him I am going to need some bigger jeans!
My milkshake better not bring any of the boys to the yard! I don’t share!