If I have only one hope for 2018, then it is that we all find our voices, we all speak our truths whether it only comes out as a small whisper or whether you are the only person that believes it. What you think, your opinions and your passions for what is important to you, all these things are what make you, you! And no one has the right to quiet you or dismiss you because they don’t believe in you, don’t agree with you or just want to put you down.
If something is on your mind then say it, don’t worry that people will laugh at you, dislike you or disown you because why are you keeping quiet to save someone that clearly wouldn’t save you. Don’t sacrifice yourself for someone else, decide it doesn’t matter and say the things that you are too scared to say.
Over the years there has been plenty I wanted to say, questions I wanted to ask and anger I wanted to get out. I wanted to ask my family “how did you not know that I was raped as a child?” I wanted to ask the ex “What was going through your head when you left me to die on our kitchen floor?”. And there has been been people that I simply wanted to yell at because they hurt me. The truth is without using your voice to say what you want you are simply only hurting yourself.
“Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”.
And its not always negative, that person that you want to ask out, then ask out!! Yes they might say no but surely that ten seconds of embarrassment is better then what can be months of not knowing. Months of wondering, of what ifs, don’t waste time on wondering and what ifs, waste ten seconds and simply know that they are meant for you. Believe me I know its the scariest thing in the world, but what is scarier is getting old and realising you never said what was on your mind.
If you love someone let them know, believe me I know how much it sucks to love someone who doesn’t love you back but it sucks a lot worse holding the feeling in, its a form of emotional torture. It is super embarrassing and you will look back on it years from now and still cringe, however knowing their answer and how they feel will set you free.
If you want to try something new, whether it is ballroom dancing, fire eating, a pottery class or you want to join a bird watching club because you love it but you are worried that people will laugh at you. Well fuck them! Fuck them for making you feel bad about something you love. Stand up loud and proud and declare what you love.
So in 2018 find your voice and say exactly what you want, yes it might upset some people but it will forever give you inner peace. It will make your year soooo much more happier and those people that love and respect you will still love and respect you. Speaking your truth will bring new people into your life and take you on a new journey, so embrace your inner voice and speak you truth throughout the whole of 2018. Take that deep breath and just start talking and don’t stop until your opinion has been heard. But remember to respect others for doing the same and although you might not agree with them, high five them for speaking their truth. No matter how much you disagree with a person and their views, remember we are lucky enough to live in a world that allows us to have our own opinion, because imagine the alternative.