“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”
Anthony de Mello
How true is this quote?! I truly believe that most people are unhappy because their life isn’t how they pictured it in their heads. Most people are waiting for that job promotion, their next holiday or even for the weekend for what they think will bring them happiness. However by wasting time waiting you will be missing out on so many small happy moments. Here’s some of my small happy moments that have put a smile on my face recently.
At the weekend I went on a second date, we walked around Tatton park, ate cake and got to know each other, it was magical. I had totally forgot what dating was like, the nerves, butterflies and twenty different outfit changes. During the entire date I had to keep reminding myself to breathe, that’s when I was trying not to throw up with nerves. I have really been enjoying getting to know someone and it’s been lovely to have a reason to get dressed up and play around with my look. Fingers crossed for lots more dates in the future.
This week I finally got my butt to the cinema and watched beauty and the beast and I wasn’t disappointed, although I’m yet to see a remake of a Disney film that was better than the original cartoon. I spent my entire childhood watching Disney films daily, each one has been burnt into my brain, the songs take me back to being seven years old. I absolutely adore trips to the cinema I’m a total film geek and can’t think of a better way to spend a couple of hours. Plus any time I get to turn my phone off and eat sugary snacks is just fine with me.
I have been staying with Dave for the last few days while Jamie has been away fishing. Dave can make my heart melt into a puddle with just a wag of his little tail. I couldn’t imagine my life without him in it, me and Jamie are still the best of friends and call each other daily so when it comes to looking after Dave I get first refusal. We spent our days chasing our tails, going on long walks and being curled up asleep on the sofa together. My life has become so ridiculously busy, usually living out of my car that it has been so lovely to just relax and enjoy a slower pace for a few days.
I don’t think there are many things in this world that beat a Sunday dinner, your best friend and a long gossip. I can’t tell you just how amazing all my friends have been since the break up, my friends are the most important thing in the world to me and as I’ve gotten older the number has decreased but the quality has definitely improved. I’m incredibly thankful for each and every one of them and feel truly blessed that each of them are in my life.
Ice cream is forever my happy place and the fact I live within twenty minutes of four ice cream farms is just a happy coincidence. And the fact I live ten minutes away from my favourite is just a happy blessing. And no week is complete without a three scoop ice cream.
I am forever obsessed with filling my home with fresh flowers, specially in Spring when my home resembles a Dutch tulip farm. Flowers are so simple and cheap, yet can in seconds put the biggest smile on your face.
There are somethings in the world that only your best friend and a couple of bottles of wine can cure. Specially those nights when its last minute and your just going to your local in an old jumper, but before you know it your having one of the best nights of your life. At the end of my life I will never have a lot of stuff but I will definitely have the most incredible memories.
Sometimes you just have to sit by and watch the world go by. Sometimes we are just so busy dealing with everyday life that we forget to just stop and look around and enjoy the beauty of the world.
As happy and as positive as I am there are just some days when I have self-doubt or just wake up in a crap mood, there is sometimes never even a reason expect I want to be a little moody. However there is always one thing that gets me out of it and that’s a good old-fashioned long walk. I can walk for absolute hours and the whole time I’m processing whatever it is on my mind. During the week I had so much to process that I walked for about four hours around a beautiful lake and woodland area until my mood had lifted.
Sometimes it is the tiniest little bit of kindness that puts the biggest smile on my face. There is the most wonderful woman in my office that every Thursday leaves me a chocolate treat on my desk. It’s such a lovely thing to do for someone and doesn’t take any effort but leaves me feeling so incredibly happy, it’s also an incredible feeling to know that people I work with think so much of me.
And there are just some of the wonderful things that have made my heart smile this week.