Today is international happiness day, what an absolutely wonderful day to have. This is a fairly new holiday but one that is extremely important and close to my heart.
“In 2011, the UN General Assembly adopted a resolution which recognised happiness as a “fundamental human goal” and called for “a more inclusive, equitable and balanced approach to economic growth that promotes the happiness and well-being of all peoples”. In 2012 the first ever UN conference on Happiness took place and the UN General Assembly adopted a resolution which decreed that the International Day of Happiness would be observed every year on 20 March. It was celebrated for the first time in 2013. “
Ok so reading it like that doesn’t sound to happy but it is a great cause. Now I know that I am truly lucky and extremely happy with my life and count myself as a happy person but believe me I’ve not always been this way. I have struggled with self hate, loneliness, bouts of depression and a ridiculous amount of negative thoughts. I certainly can’t tell you that just following a couple of self help tips on happiness is going to instantly make you happy because honestly it won’t but what I can tell you is that by doing a couple of the tips it will most definitely put you in the right direction for when you are truly ready to let go of what’s making you unhappy.
One thing I know for sure is that happiness doesn’t come from owning the latest fashion piece, having a fancy car, working in a high paid job or having 30,000 Facebook friends. It comes from accepting and loving yourself, by being thankful for what you have, it’s ok to want more but you have to work for it, you have to set goals while being grateful on the road to achieving those goals. It comes from helping others, a kind smile and spending time with people you love.
I wanted to share some of the little things that helped me become who I am now the girl who would never recognise who she was.
1. You get back what you put out! This one saying has helped me through some dark times and stopped me falling back into old ways. If you are constantly putting out bad thoughts you are going to have a negative life. Think about it for example, if you are always gossiping about someone at work those people you gossip with are certainly going to gossip about you, then you suddenly become a negative person in the office making your work life increasingly miserable. Or if you walk around rejecting complements brushing them off with ” I’m too fat, skinny, tall, short, ugly ) don’t be surprised when you start to believe it. Put out as many good thoughts as you can, smile at people, say nice things about others and see how positive your life becomes.
2. There is always someone worse of than you! Ok so I know your rolling your eyes at this, it’s such a cliche but the truth is, it’s absolutely true. So you might have missed your bus, spilt coffee down your new white shirt, burnt your dinner and had a fight with your best friend. But all these things are bad luck, they are not life changing and probably will be forgotten about by the next week. When I’m having a bad day I think about all the people out there who are looking for missing child, people that will never make it home again or people who will be eating whatever they can find from a bin. Remember you are blessed and a bad day is not a negative life.
3. Do something for someone else and be surprised. I’m not saying that you need to sell all your stuff, move to Africa and help sick people. I bet you know or have seen someone around that is always alone, an elderly neighbour with no visitors a co worker who always looks unhappy and alone. Why not spend 30 minutes with them ( that’s the time Sat on the sofa watching a soap ) it might not mean anything to you but it could mean the absolute world to them. And in the process you might actually enjoy learning about someone else, suggest having a cup of tea and biscuit together.
4. Look after yourself, this may be the hardest point. Have you noticed when you are short on time or something pops up you find the time by dropping time for yourself. It’s not selfish to say not tonight I’m having some me time how can you help others if you aren’t looking after yourself. You need time to recharge your batteries. If you are exhausted from looking after the kids all week ask your partner to take charge so you can have a bath and an early night, you will wake up feeling better and more enthusiastic, you could take “me time” in turns because I bet your partner is just as in need as you. Or if you have had a awful day at work why not take yourself off on a evening walk to help relax. Even 20 minutes a day of looking after yourself will improve your outlook.
5. Look for happiness all around you. I think what truly makes me happy is I look for happiness in everyday events. Don’t get me wrong big things make me happy too but they are few and far between and you will always just be waiting for something better to appear. I’m talking about those little things like meeting friends for coffee, cocktails on a Friday night with your best friend. Cake with your partner, finding the perfect shade lipstick or watching your child having a giggling fit. The truth is these are the moments that truly build your life, these are the moments you should be enjoying and being thankful for. Because if you have one a day that’s 30 in a month and a whooping 365 happy moments in a year.
I hope this was hopeful, if you have any happiness tips please comment below and let me know about them.